How to have a happier Christmas

christmas de-stress overwhelm planning ahead Dec 21, 2022

As Christmas is approaching, and I have been reflecting on some of my client sessions lately and other conversation's I have been having with friends and at networking events. A lot of people that I am speaking with are feeling in need of a break. They're exhausted, and running a little close to empty. There feels like an underlying pressure to really be able to switch off and relax over this Christmas period.

With this in mind, I wanted to touch on the subject of overwhelm at Christmas, or any occasions that bring families and friends together.

Taking Christmas as an example, the festive season can be wonderful. It can also be difficult at the same time too. The two can co-exist.

We might have lots to fit in - celebrations, last-minute meet-ups, Christmas parties, family coming to stay with us or we might be the ones off visiting family/friends.

We might have time off of work or we might still be juggling working. Not forgetting, those with children have got them home from school too! There can be a lot going on and the pressure to feel joy can be overwhelming.

On the other hand, Christmas might be a time where we have a lot more time on our hands. It might be a time we reflect on our lives more, and think of those that are perhaps no longer with us. Christmas can be a lonely time for many, regardless of if we are surrounded by family/friends or not.

It's easy to get caught up in the idea of the Christmas spirit and you may even find yourself trying to overcompensate to please others or to create the perfect narrative in your mind; yet, in reality you may be feeling withdrawn and tired.

With this pressure, can come the natural feeling of guilt that you're not 'switched on' 24/7 - especially at a time that is reflected as special.

To help you go into this Christmas looking after your well-being as best you can I suggest the following 3 pieces of advice:

1. STOP judging yourself!

No matter how you're feeling, let your thoughts and feelings come and go. Try not to jump all over them and start telling yourself that you’re wrong/stupid/ungrateful for feeling how you do.

There's no right or wrong way to feel; instead of beating yourself up over it, why not find and engage in things that bring you personal joy, even if it's in small amounts.

2. Do something for YOU every day. 

Being kind to yourself and your wellbeing - think about what you need at this time. What can you prioritise that is in line with your own wellbeing? It could be wrapping up warm and going for a nice long walk or drive, going for a festive hot drink, reading a book, calling and catching up with a friend, listening to a podcast, experimenting in the kitchen. Whatever it is, look forward to at least that one thing every day that you do purely for you. Make it a non-negotiable. A priority.

3. Let it go.

Rather than getting caught up in these thoughts and overthinking/ruminating, try and detach from the thought and allow it to come and go without placing too much emphasis onto it. Instead remind yourself that this period doesn't last forever, try to enjoy the moments for what they are knowing they are just temporary. 

While these things sound simple, it's surprising how often we are not doing the most simple of things to help us combat stress and overwhelm.

I hope you enjoy installing some of these as new, positive and insightful habits that you can take into the new year with you. For further support please browse more of these blog articles or book in a complimentary call with me here, so we can talk through the support you may need.

Wishing you health & happiness,

Sohaila Sophia x